What are you holding on to that weighs you down or causes you pain and suffering?
What would your life be like if you let them go?
I have a pretty long list as it turns out. It sparks me to wonder why I hold so tightly to ideas and opinions that clearly no longer serve me, if they ever did.
How about you, can you say the same thing? Can you feel how wonderful it would be to loosen your grip and release things that clutter your life?
Perhaps right now you might want to take a moment and join me by creating a list of thoughts and observations. And once created, explore the idea of letting them go.
Here are some of mine to help you get started. If something ignites your own awareness, please feel free to follow it and see where it leads you. Remember there are never any ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ answers.
I believe I would be well served by releasing the following:
** my need to be, feel or think that I am ‘right’ (about anything).
** my idea that I need to be ready to say the next thing when I am in a dialogue with someone (rather than just being present with them).
** the idea I have about all of my past ‘mistakes’ (especially since I cannot possibly know what was or wasn’t a mistake).
** the inner need I feel about ‘my’ team having to win in order for me to be happy.
** anything that I am holding inside my body which causes pain, suffering or discomfort (because I cannot feel safe, whole, or complete without letting go).
** any need I have to make comparisons (which hurt all parties).
** any value judgements I make (because they lock in the notion that I am ‘right’ and that others are ‘wrong’ and I don’t/can’t see far enough or wide enough to know the truth).
** the inner desire I feel for more food than my body needs (which can feel like a competition and one that profoundly impacts me).
** any restriction I place on experiencing JOY (there are times I feel I have to ‘earn’ joy, rather than knowing it is a part of my spiritual essence, always yearning to be freely felt).
I’m sure I could go on, but I bet you get the idea.
Now for the hard part…how do I make this happen? How do I effectively release all these things I seem to realize are not helpful for me?
It strikes me I’m not starting in the most beneficial place, because I used the phrase, “now for the hard part”. Maybe you were quick and picked right up on this. To begin any process with the thought that it will be difficult or challenging or ‘hard’, prejudices you and sets the stage for self-fulfilling prophecies to come true.
So, now for the easy part. I know it might sound simple, but I believe it is also quite true. YOU CHOOSE. If it’s obvious to you that your thoughts are complicating your life in any way, you simple choose new thoughts. You replace the ones that restrict you or run contrary to what serves you (makes you happy, fulfilled or joyful).
As soon as you recognize the appearance of conflicts or judgements entering your life, you make a conscious choice to release them, knowing it is you who profits from this. You place your sense of self-worth above what you imagine others expect or demand of you.
And, you keep doing this, decision after decision after decision. The constancy of choosing to release that which does not serve you, will create new patterns in your life, ones that do serve you.
Choosing is always up to you. I hope you choose well.