Words matter, the ones you speak out loud, the ones you keep inside and especially the words you tell yourself.
Just the other day I was writing in my journal, and it struck me how differently the words expressed would be if I truly looked at each one.
Here’s a sentence I wrote.
Perhaps there would be some benefit to me if I acknowledged all of my concerns and accepted their potential outcomes, in advance.
There is a lot of meat in this sentence for me, but before I say anything about the content, I want to share that upon rereading it, I felt several changes needed to be made.
Here’s what the sentence looks like when rewritten.
There is benefit for me in acknowledging all of my concerns and accepting their potential outcomes in advance.
Can you sense the difference?
I certainly can. To me the shift is in its definitiveness. There is no ‘perhaps’ about it and rather than there being any question about the benefit of acknowledging my concerns, there is a sense of assurance about doing so. That is a big difference and it made me wonder how often my words reflect my true desires and intentions.
In this case, the content also changed. It shifted from being a question to being a statement that there is great value to me in allowing my concerns to surface, knowing that when I accept them in advance, I can discover their worth. There is power and strength where there had been concern and worry.
They each have their own energy and we are susceptible to it. If you are paying attention to them, you recognize their impact. You can feel them and some of them can elate you while others cause suffering and damage.
When you send your words into the world, they create waves. They ripple and ricochet because what you say to others can move far beyond them. And when combined with strong emotions, their expression and power are heightened.
Words when used with ill intentions cut and destroy and neither the receiver nor the giver are sparred.
Care with using words is a wonderful gift. Kind and generous words build and strengthen. Loving words add to the world. They bring joy and blessings. They open hearts and make the world a wider and more beautiful place.
The direction words travel, whether aimed toward our inner world or sent into the outside world, is important to consider.
What kind of life do you want?
It’s often reflected by the words you choose.
It feels to me that words have an inherent strength, and you can feel this while using them. Surely it depends on the circumstance and the manner in which they are used, but here are a few examples of what I mean.
Wishing feels weak because there is so much room for failure.
Hoping, wanting and desiring are stronger, but lack a sense of conviction. They hint at not being in possession of what you seek.
Intending and aiming are stronger still and more directional and will probably bring about greater results, if there is action taken.
Knowing, claiming and choosing strike me as more complete words. They are active, aware and directive. When used, they call into existence and create and become real in the world. They are the end result of conceiving, believing and taking action.
All words matter.
What we say to others and what we tell ourselves matters. Words create much of what we experience in our life and when chosen wisely bring joy and love into the world.
I am so grateful for words.
4 Replies to “Words Matter”
Rob, my beloved friend,
I was mining the content of words in 2010 when I viewed the movies: “The King’s Speech” and the remake of “True Grit”. Frontier folk whose only education was some Bible study exhibited tremendous respect for precision in their everyday communication! (…and I never cared for John Wayne’s devil may care bravado in the original movie anyhow!!!)
Interesting my friend, thanks for commenting.
Our choice of words and phrasings has a huge impact on how we think and feel. I’ve started reading an interesting book called Grammar for a Full Life: How the Ways We Shape a Sentence Can Limit or Enlarge Us by Lawrence Weinstein. It’s a dense book so I’ve only gotten through the first two chapters, but it sure give me something to think about when choosing my words.
I agree and it is so easy to loose sight of how important our words are and the impact they can have. I often wonder if we’d be better off saying fewer words.