I’ve thought a lot about the idea of perfection over the course of my life. I wonder if you have too. There is certainly a great deal of emphasis placed on it. Our cultural training seems to glorify perfection and encourages us to achieve it.
One of the main problems in my opinion is the state of perfection does not exist as a reality. It’s only an ideal. According to one internet source the definition of perfection is the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects.
Consider that for a moment. Free of ALL flaws or defects. Not just some. Not almost all. Free from ALL.
Why would anyone be tempted to be perfect?
I know that for me, it never worked and that’s not for a lack of trying. There was always some aspect I could not accomplish, no matter how hard I tried. And I’ve seen so many others pursue their goals with the idea in mind that they could do it perfectly. They didn’t. They couldn’t.
At some point part of the mystery of perfection revealed itself to me. It may only be my personal revelation, but it might be something you would agree with.
Perfection is the ultimate challenge and cannot be achieved, or at least it cannot be sustained. Underneath the concept of perfection is a host of other demons. The feelings of unworthiness, and the overall sense of not being enough or of value. These all seem to me to go together, like a bunch of bullies that taunt you and try to put you down.
I believe that perfection is an earth word. Something dreamed up to separate us and create unhappiness. It invites us into a conditional world, where no one stands at the top, but folks can take satisfaction from being better than those below them.
I’m through with the word. I am releasing it from my vocabulary, along with the word, ‘should’. They are banned words now to me.
Part of me asked the question…is there an actual word that can replace perfection, something I can acknowledge and appreciate?
For me, one word stepped forward to fill the empty space…’wholeness’.
I need to explain my definition so you can see whether it fills in your empty space too.
Wholeness, for me, is a process, not an end result. I believe we all came to earth ‘whole’ and complete, inherently valuable, worthwhile, rare, and gifted, beautiful and loved. True, we’ve all fallen off the straight line of tracks, but it’s of no real consequence since we are still in the process.
There is no need for any comparison, feelings of lack, judgement, or criticism. Those all belong to perfection, so we can leave them by the side of the road.
Wholeness invites us forward, encouraging our dreams and opening our hearts. There is an unconditional love, peace and sense of joy attached.
Perfection yields sorrow, while wholeness creates soaring, drawing us upward into freedom.
Wholeness is a Heaven word. Wholeness is something we came here with and if we choose it consciously, consistently, open heartedly, it gets bigger. And the bigger it becomes the more joy there is, for us and all those around us.
I love the word, wholeness, and I am giving it a special place inside me to grow.